the end of ROUND 4

First arriving at the hospital

So I opted out of getting my membranes stripped at my Tues. appointment and I was still dilated at 4cm but 60% effaced. My midwife was going out of town Thurs. but I still wanted to go into labor on my own. After going to sleep Tues. night I was awakened throughout the night by contractions that I needed to breathe through but I would go back to sleep after. When I got up in the morning, I debated if I should go into work or stay home and get some more rest because I was a little exhausted from the night. I chose to go in since it was only a 4 hour shift. I was having semi strong contractions but they weren't close together. My shift ended at 12pm and as soon as I got home the contractions went up a notch but still weren't close enough so I ate lunch and thought that would calm down the contractions if I wasn't in labor. I tried to time it but kept forgetting what time it started but I knew that I had  5 in a 45min time period and I called my midwife because with each contraction the pressure gave me the feeling to push. So my midwife told me to head to the hospital. I didn't want to go because I didn't want to be sent right back home so I told Etu what my midwife said than I started painting my toenails lol. Etu was like, uh do you think this is the right time to be doing that? I only wanted to take my mind off of it and tried to think of anything I needed to get done before baby arrived. After about a half hour of B S-in, we headed to the hospital. When I got there  at 2:00pm, sure enough I was still 4cm and now 70%. I was monitored for about an hour with not much going on labor wise. The nurse called my midwife for further instructions, and when she came back I was told to walk the halls for an HOUR... so boring BTW! After an hour passed, I was "checked" and I was 5cm, that was at 4:30pm. The nurse called my midwife and when she arrived she broke my water. By 7:30pm, I hit my 9cm wall. I don't dilate to a 10 on my own. So my midwife stretched "it" as I pushed. After about 4-5 sets of 3 pushes he was born at 830pm. I could feel Etu's tears falling on the side of me as I struggled to keep my eyes open because I was balling from the pain. They placed baby on me for skin to skin, and it was magical. Baby went from screaming to silence as soon as he was on me, I LOVED IT! When they took baby to get his measurements, I was a little surprised to hear 9lbs 3oz but I was shocked to hear his length of 23in. He's a great addition to our family and I'm thankful to the Lord for trusting me with him and grateful for my husband's priesthood blessing that helped me cope with labor. Initially we were planning on naming this baby but Etu decided to let me dad since we have our older sons names from both his parents side and my mom's side. The name that was chosen is Saiaiga Tolefoa after my dad's maternal grandfather. Baby Sa is what we call him for short.

going home =)

Due DATE

So today is the BIG day and I've officially been passed up by all expectant parents that I or Etu knew who were all due after me lol. Una (Etu's brother) and Neha had their daughter yesterday and I had told her a few days prior that I think she would go before me. My previous post about being 3CM had me thinking, at the time, that I was going to go shortly after that appointment because of the contractions I was having from having a busy day that day but here I am more than a week later on my due date, STILL prego. I had a prenatal appointment Friday and I am between 3-4cm but still 50% effaced and thick according to my midwife. Most people assume that because this is my fourth child that he should just slip out but thats not the case for me. I have never dilated to 10 cm on my own and all my pregnancies have gone past the due date that was given to me. At my appointment, she told me if I make it to my next appointment, which is tomorrow at 330, she'll strip the membranes... I don't know if I want to do that so we'll first see what she says tomorrow. I really am ok with it all though, I'm not horribly miserable. Thankfully it hasn't been that hot and I am GRATEFUL that I made it through last week to be able to be there for the boys last soccer games and to be able to have the focus on Sime for his birthday. All went well, except for my lack of photos from his birthday =\ We just had everyone come out and watch his last soccer game then  had cake and ice cream back at our place. Simple and sweet.

JUNE catchup

Tee Ball trophies

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Sime's kindergarten promotion

Sime did well in kindergarten. His teacher was Mrs. Cox and I loved her! Can't believe how fast this year went by.

June 2nd

With teacher Mrs. Cox

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 Spring soccer 2011
We signed all three of our boys up for soccer this year This is both Faga and Vai's first time playing and its been a BLAST watching them learn and play the game. Vai is only 3 but will be 4 in July so they allowed him to play. The first game he was more interested in playing at the playground than playing in the game but his interest has grown along with his confidence in himself to play. They all improve more and more with each game that they play and their coach Gabriel is GREAT with them. 

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 Tiny Tots Track Meet 2011
This is the 5th year that we've participated in this track event which is held at East High through the same track club that Etu and his siblings have ran with growing up and the youngest Vita now runs with.
Sime's events: 50m, 100m, 80m 
Tifaga's events: 400m walk race, softball throw, javelin toss (Faga injured his leg the day before this meet playing soccer with a neighbor kid which is why he couldn't do any of the run races) 
Vainga's events: 50m 100m 80m hurdle
This year, Ti bought all the grandkids club shirts and my parents came out to watch with my sister and her girls.

Havili Boys

some of my nieces and nephews that participated

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Vita's 8th grade advancement

No need for explanation, photos are good enough. Love this little brother!

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Sime's Bee's game birthday surprise
This past Friday, I received a call from Sione about wanting to take our little family to the Bees game and have Leroy (Big Buddah) do something special for Sime's birthday. I was pretty booked that day with a prenatal appt. and a graduation party to attend. Etu worked late so I didn't think I would be able to make it without his help but I wanted to for my boys and especially Sime. After I got off, I dropped the boys off to my cousins at the graduation party and went to my prenatal appt. After getting checked I started contracting and went to the graduation party. The party started about 2-3 hours late and as soon as I ate I loaded the boys and we ran home to shower and get them ready. We met up with Sione, LyNi and the kids in the parking lot than met up with Leroy and he took us in and fed us. During the 4th inning, Leroy took Sione and Sime down to the field. During the 6th inning, Sime came out on top of the dugout and I didn't realize til after they had announced his name. Below is a really rough video of the jumbo tron footage of some of it. You can hear his name twice. He was able to throw the beach ball out to the crowd for a whole row to win pizza. He got one too =) Than during the next series, Sione, Sime and Leroy came out on the field and threw T-Shirts out to the crowd. He had so much fun! We all did =) Even though the kids were more into the mascot than the actual team, the Bees game is a great activity for families. Thanks again Sione, LyNi and Leroy!

prepping to lead the stadium in singing take me out to the ball game with Leroy

I sure LoVE summer time!!!

3CM

I had my, now, weekly prenatal appointment Friday and I wasn't surprised to hear that I've opened up, it was the being already at 3cm that shocked me. The nesting stage kicked in earlier this week and I haven't been sleeping the greatest since. I seem to not want to fall asleep til late and I wake up several times throughout the night til I get up around 6 when daylight starts to break. I mentally was thinking I wasn't any where near labor just given my history of always going over my due date by a week or so but you just never know. My due date is June 20th and Sime's birthday is June 18th. It sucks that their birthdays will be so close because I have brothers whose birthdays are two days apart and one shared with me how he hated that growing up. OH well, not much I can  do to change this now rather than just hope that baby can hang tight until a week after Sime's birthday and so I won't have to miss any of my boys soccer games. Speaking of soccer, the boys did start up with soccer. I will have to make another post regarding their soccer.

Things have already started to get busy, as usual with summer time, starting with graduations last week. Riverton, Cottonwood, Highland and East. Promotions for Vita heading into High School, Sime's kindergarten advancement and graduation parties. Sime got an early birthday surprise todayfrom his Uncle  Sione involving the Bees game and Leroy (Big Buddah) but I'll have to save that for another post too. I'm just typing updates because I'm waiting for my anti-nausea pill to kick in because my midwife advised that when I have sleepless nights like these that I should take em, and that I did =) And I'm sitting at 1:50 am right now. Hoi! I need to be taking it easy and hopefully my next post won't be about how I delivered tomorrow.

Blog posts coming soon... well that's my hope at least...

A birth story (Parts I-IV)

BEES birthday surprise

HaViLi boys soccer 

35 1/2 Weeks

5-6 weeks left. Baby has descended into my pelvis and it's PAINFUL! He implanted low and I have felt  discomfort early and its become more intense as the have weeks past. Never before did I want to have any of my kids early as I do with this one. I feel guilty for judging other expectant mothers for wanting to get induced early because it was more convenient. I'm not planning to get induced or anything but I'm sure wishing that I go into labor SOON. If baby is ready, I'M SOOOO READY  =) I've been missing work lately because of my lack of energy some mornings to deal with the aches. I stopped wearing my prenatal cradle because the pain went away and now that the pain is back I've started to wear it again, shoulda never stopped. Although I'm grateful that there's not much longer to go it doesn't feel like it but I'm hoping the nesting stage kicks in soon so that I can get organized before he arrives.

Note to self...

Today I was looking at some older photos of my boys. Every time I reminisce on their photos I'm filled with mixed emotions. Happiness because of the memories behind the photos. Sadness, remembering that they were that small, even if it was just a month, year or two ago. Regret for not living in the moment with my kids, especially my Sime. And for not being more aware of the actual age my children were. I feel that I expected more out of them than they were capable of doing at that age. When I see the photos, I don't remember them looking so young because then I treated them as though they were older and expected a lot out of them espeically when it came to their behavior. Trouble twos never meant anything to me, I disciplined my kids when they acted up and never made excuses for what I saw as just plain bad behavior. Now I see how in my family and my husband's how the oldest children get it the worse compared to the younger. It makes me sad to think that although I've never missed anything in Sime's life thus far, I feel like I have because I didn't see him as my baby. To me, he was my oldest who had to be a good example to his younger brothers. Poor guy only had 3 or 4 months of being the "baby" in the family til I was pregnant again and he was 1 yr and 1 month when Tifaga was born. I love that my kids are close in age but I only wish I could have given Sime more time to give attention and complete focus to from me and Etu. We've made a goal to have one on one dates with each of the boys to give them their own mom and dad time. We already started last month and it was ummm, a start =)

I just wanted to make a note to myself to RELAX, and enjoy your children before its too late and they're grown and gone!!! These babies will only be 4, 5 and 6 soon but these years have flown by ALREADY =...( PLEASE, TRY TRY TRY and live in the moment woman!!!!!!!